The exertion of force upon a surface by an object, fluid, etc., in contact with it
That’s the dictionary.com definition of pressure. But there’s a deeper meaning behind this word and I’m going to break it down in two ways: how pressure can be a negative and positive force of nature.
Pressure as a negative force
Too much pressure can lead to an increase in your stress levels. It can allow pessimistic thoughts like, ‘I can’t do this’ or ‘I’m not worthy’ to step in and take control of your emotional and mental stability. It can even cause negative behavior. With my recent venture to Australia, I believe I’ve allowed pressure to act as a negative force. There’s been a great deal of support and encouragement to be great and do great things while I’m here and I’ve appreciated and embraced it all. But along with receiving that support and encouragement, I’ve allowed it to turn into pressure and stress myself out. My mind constantly circles around the idea of whether or not I will succeed and achieve the goals I’ve set for myself while I’m here. Whether I’ll stay and be great or go back home with a feeling of unsatisfaction and a disappointment and disdain in myself.
Oh and not to mention the constant questions from family and friends like, “What’s your next move after the internship?” “When are you coming back?” “Are you staying?” “Do you have a job yet?” “Where are you going to live?” All these redundant questions not only add on a great deal of pressure but also give me a feeling of deja vu back to the last semester of my senior year in college. All I ever got asked was what my next move was after graduating. Being questioned all the time when you don’t even know the answers yourself can be so frustrating, and not to mention annoying.
I’m guilty of allowing pressure to get the best of my motivation, spirit, mental and emotional state in a negative fashion way too often. Though it tends to have a very negative connotation attached to it, I realized that there are ways that pressure can be positive.
Pressure as a positive force
As most know, diamonds are formed under extreme amounts pressure. How they become diamonds though is the beauty of it all, they start out as a chunk of charcoal that handles stress exceptionally well. Therefore like diamonds, we can grow positively in many aspects from the right amount of pressure and stress. It starts by embracing your charcoal phase and taking the negative connotation out of pressure and using the stress that comes along with it as a driving force to propel yourself in the right direction. Easier said than done right? Not necessarily. I’ve learned that I don’t always have to have all the answers and most of the time I don’t, that’s okay. I can’t rush the processes of life, timing is everything. So I must learn to be patient, live in the moment and take thing as they come, but with a positive attitude and mindset. Patience combined with pressure will bring the right people, things, and opportunities to my life at the right time. If I rush it then I’ll end up digging myself into a deeper hole. I may not be exactly where I want to be in life: living overseas in beautiful modern apartment or home, working as a traveling journalist, dancing in some jazzy studio and traveling all over the world in my spare time.
But I am working my way up to making my dreams and goals a reality. I’m interning for a company in the field that I hope to work for and absorbing tons of knowledge and learning skills that will prepare to be the best I can be in that field. And not to mention I already made part of my goals come to pass, I’m overseas in Australia!
It’s all about your perspective in life, using the pressure that keeps building up as a positive force. Maintaining an optimistic mindset, surrounding yourself with good vibes and supportive people, keeping your faith and remaining focused on your goals. Remember a little pressure never hurts, an immense amount of pressure forms diamonds. Are you a diamond under pressure?
Continue to experience the Life of Tai in my next post…
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