On a recent stroll through insomnia lane, I was scrolling through my Instagram timeline and ran across this gem: “Show respect even to people who don’t deserve it; not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours.” – Dave Willis.
This quote stuck with me and inspired me to write on it for two reasons. First, I don’t think many people know the meaning or value of respect these days. Secondly, as of late I’ve been placed in many situations that have been testing my ability to show others undivided respect as a result of how they’ve treated me. I’ve kept my mouth shut and let my mind go wild with all the things I wish I could say and do, but won’t because of the immense amount of self-control I have instilled within myself. Time and time again I’ve found myself putting on a mask of cordialness. By doing this I don’t consider myself acting fake, I’m taking on a role that’s hard for many to bear, it’s called: being the bigger person. As the bigger person, you have to learn to take people and things at face value. See people for who they truly are and take things and situations for what they are. Sometimes that may mean keeping your silence.
In life, there will always be people who don’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated and unfair situations that you’re placed in. But you can’t change it, you have to accept it and keep things moving. Though it can be difficult there’s no use in getting upset, besides yourself, or letting the person or situation get the best of you. I don’t necessarily believe that to get respect you must give it. You can be as respectful as you can possibly be and still receive the utmost disrespect. I also say that because I don’t believe tit for tat is the way to go either. At this age and stage in my life, I’ve learned that when you speak to people disrespectfully, (cussing, name calling, raising your voice, etc) they become ignorant and are no longer willing to listen. When you act out in a disrespectful manner it can evoke violence and cause altercations to occur. Either way, whether it be through your choice of words, the tone of your voice or actions, disrespecting others is not the way to go regardless of how they may have disrespected or hurt you. It goes back to the saying, kill them with kindness. You have a better chance of getting through to someone when you show them respect and treat them how you would like to be treated rather than how they deserve to be treated.
Always take a step back and reevaluate the person or situation where you were shown a lack of respect. Think about how things could have turned out if you would have acted off of impulse and given them what they deserved. And think about ways in which you can change the direction of the situation by being respectful. Trust me, you’ll agree that showing respect is always the way to go. Whether you immediately feel the repercussions that being respectful can have on you after you’ve been disrespected or not, you will always come out the winner.
I wish that it was as easy as saying, if you want respect, show respect but unfortunately as stated before that’s not always how it works these days, it’s not guaranteed. People will disrespect you in various ways regardless of how respectful you are towards them. But keep the faith and remain respectful, karma is a very real thing. Let the universe and karma deal with those who disrespect, mistreat or take you for granted in any way, shape or form. Continue to be the bigger person, respectful and spread good vibes, you’ll be rewarded in the end. You may not see it or reap the benefits right away but they always come around in due time.
Continue to experience the Life of Tai in my next post…
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